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The Best Way To Stop Tics

I speak to so many of you worried mamas offline. I was once like you – scared about the future, dreaming of fearful “what if” scenarios, wondering if my kid jumped up and down in excitement over a surprise Disneyland trip if this might, in turn, make him jump up and down 1000 more times and he’d develop a compulsive tic that resembled a springy clown from a jack-in-the-box. In fact, what if he started obsessing about clowns or, worse, started shouting the word “Clown! Clown!” when he was supposed to be sitting quietly on the tram or paying attention in Circle Time?

I want to tell you that none of those things ever came to pass which is a great thing for me, my kid, and any people on public transportation or at public school who have a terrible phobia of clowns.

What I did start doing, however, was the best thing that could ever have happened since my son’s T.S. diagnosis. It was a cure I didn’t think would be more powerful than a Tic Tamer, Bonnie Grimaldi Vitamins, NAC or Gluten Free/Dye Free/GMO organic elephant poo from India – but it really was magical. It was called Faith over Fears.

“Oh, man, this is not what I wanted to hear,” some of you might say. (In fact, you one mama in the Midwest who has been Googling for cures all night… I just heard you groan from here.)

To your “arrgs” I want to say, “I know. I wouldn’t have wanted to hear my advice at the beginning either. But I wish someone would have told me anyway, because it’s the best cure there is.”

It looks something like this:

Fear

Obsess over his neck spasm

Faith

Encourage the things he loves

read

Fear

Banish the Stuff You Can’t Stand

Faith

Teach him moderation and time management

computer

Fear

Obsess about invisible bullies

Faith

Be intentional about encouraging real friendships with kind hearted people

da boys

Fear

Obsess that he’ll feel weak

Faith

Surround him with family that make him strong

dom and pip

Fear

Worry about impulsive manners

Faith

Remind yourself that T.S. is not an excuse for bad behavior. Surround him with lovely ladies for encouragement!

ladies

When you remember to focus on your child’s gifts, not his tics, T.S. will be something he has, not something he is.

And that, my friends, is the cure for this maddening disorder – both for your child and… bonus… for you.

Until next time, hug that ticker of yours today!

Andrea

PS: My boy started fifth grade today, along with his sister and Miss L who started fourth. I can’t believe it! They had a great morning. Hope your babies are doing okay, too!

trio 2

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About Andrea Frazer

Find me at www.happilytickedoff.com! I'm a produced television, magazine, newspaper and national blog writer available for freelance writing in the areas of faith, parenting, lifestyle and healthcare. In addition to ghostwriting and content creation, I am proud to be publishing my first book. Called "Happily Ticked Off," it is a humorous mom-moir about raising a son with Tourette Syndrome. I can best be described as Erma Bombeck meets Nora Ephron. I live to connect with others through writing, authenticity and just a wee bit of sass.

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  1. Thanks Andrea!:). I admire you tremendously:). I had a rough afternoon as I saw an adult woman with pretty recognizable tics and I wonder if God is telling me that my son will deal with this one day:(. I am trying to keep the Faith as I pray multiple times per day. Your post came at the perfect time!!!

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  2. How did the first day go???? Thinking of you and your beautiful children!!,:)

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    • I’m going to find out now! Picking them up. Has your son started yet?

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      • Hello Andrea,

        I am a new mom that is learning about this disease, I read alll of your posting. I still feels it would be great if I can ask you something’s privately. Please email me if. You can.

        Thank you!

        Shelly

  3. You, are for sure one of a kind my sweet friend. I love you from the bottom of my soul! Hope they had a FABULOUS first day!!!

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  4. Both my kids had a great first day. A little “boring” as it was all about rules and what to expect which, of course, they “Already knooooowwww shhhhheeeessssh” but…. good. We went afterwards to Hometown Buffet with my mom and ate enough gluten and dairy to make a non-T.S.’r tic like a clock. Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuullllllllllllllllllllllllllll yum. Talk at ya Monday if not before.

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  5. Great news!!:). we start on the 28th…..

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  6. Michelle Hernandez

    Hi Andrea I’ve been follolwing you for a few months now and I felt like now was the time to reach out to you. I was hoping we could chat a bit through email regarding your son and some of the things I’m going through with mine. I love your approach and I’m hoping you can help me find my “happy place.”

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